About

Who the heck is this guy anyways?

I’m just a regular guy who got tired of living how I’m “supposed to” live.

I believe in living a big life with big goals, and living every minute of it for Jesus.

Learn more about me, what I’ve learned, how I learned it, my mission, my beliefs.

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Who Am I?

I constantly strive to become a better version of myself, but I realized that a lot of the self development blogs were written from a worldly perspective. It seemed like the ultimate goal was either building massive wealth or achieving a personal [almost selfish] happiness. There’s so much more to life than that.

I’m not saying you can’t build wealth. You should! I’m not saying you shouldn’t strive to be happy. You definitely should. But there’s a difference between worldly self-satisfying happiness and true joy.

I want to strive for pure joy. What about you?

I’m striving for pure joy with my beautiful wife, and five children.

So many people ask me how I balance my family life, military, writing, and full-time college, while keeping such a happy marriage, well behaved children, and a stress-free attitude.

I’ve learned a lot through trial and error. I’m finally to a place where I feel like I’ve figured out enough to help others.

If you’re not striving to live your life to the fullest, there’s so much more out there.

My Credentials

I’m not a fan of the word “credentials,” because it alludes to the idea that you must have a doctorate degree in a subject to know anything about it.

I have my own credentials, and the main one is my life. It’s not so much credentials; it’s more like proof. Proof that it’s possible to accomplish a lot no matter your circumstances. I’m not perfect, but I work on areas that I struggle with, and then I improve them.

  • My credentials for building habits and creating discipline come from the military. I’ve built many habits on my own, and all of my discipline isn’t military-driven, but if I owe gratitude to any specific person or organization for my discipline, it would be the military.
  • My credentials for personal finance include a degree in Finance, getting myself and others out of debt, building wealth on a comparatively small income, and living a life free of financial constraints with the ability to travel the world as we please.
  • My credentials for marriage come from having a wife that I love more each day, and a marriage of over 10 years that has lasted through almost everything that causes divorce. A happy marriage is my credentials.
  • My credentials for parenting come from having five children, three biological and two adopted, who love spending time together as a family. My children are well behaved and happy. I’m not a perfect parent, but we’ve had the time to figure some things out, and we deeply care about the upbringing of our children.
  • My credentials for everything else, including anything I say about theology, nutrition, prayer and even productivity come from my broad range of reading hundreds of books over the years, attending seminars, taking classes, and learning from others.

I believe you should find someone who has what you want, and then figure out how they did it. You shouldn’t take marriage advice from someone who can’t stay married, and you shouldn’t take financial advice from someone who’s broke.

There’s plenty of things I can’t do. For example, I don’t know much about mechanics, carpentry, farming, or plumbing. That’s why you won’t see an article about any of that stuff, but I have become good at the things I can do.

I focus on what I know.

Is This Website for You?

This website is for you if you fall into any of these categories:

  • If you are married
  • If you have children
  • If you want to accomplish more
  • If you have adopted (or want to)
  • If you want to change some habits
  • If you want to create more self-discipline
  • If you want a closer relationship with God
  • If you have big goals, but still want to put Jesus first
  • If you want to travel more and see the world – especially with kids

Timeline

I’ve spent my entire life doing everything backwards, upside down and flat out wrong by common standards.

This timeline shows the process (and it is a process) of how I got where I am today:

2005
Eloping

When my wife (girlfriend at the time, obviously) and I decided to get married, we thought it would be fun to elope. I was 18 and she was 20.

It was a great idea, and I’m pretty sure we weren’t ever going to tell anyone that we were married.

And then we got pregnant. Ok, technically she was pregnant, but I was the one with the cravings. Yeah I know, it’s the whole “I contributed too” thing from the man. Like Jim Gaffigan says, “yeah, you contributed too, for 60 seconds, doing the one thing you think about constantly.”

So now we were young, pregnant, and married. But nobody actually knew we were married.

This didn’t fly with her mom.

2006
The Wrong Priorities

Her mom was starting to come around, but I was a terrible person. I had no idea, but I was.

We now had our first child. I was working as a manager at Domino’s Pizza, and playing drums in a band.

The problem was that I was constantly working, and when I wasn’t working I would leave my wife at home alone with our child to go hang out with my friends and play shows with my band.

Her mom wasn’t warming up to me much.

2007
Neglecting Everything

I began to realize that I sucked. I was lazy and never there for my family.

I neglected everything for the last year, except my own wants and desires.

So what exactly did I neglect? Here’s a synopsis:

  • I neglected my family by never being home
  • I neglected our finances by buying everything I wanted on credit cards
  • I neglected my wife’s opinion by spending way too much on a vehicle we didn’t need
  • I neglected my body by only eating what came out of the oven at Domino’s Pizza
  • I neglected our finances again by buying a house we couldn’t afford

Honestly, I neglected everything except having fun and hanging out with my friends.

2008
Starting to Wake Up

I woke up.

I realized that not only were we in serious financial debt, but there was serious emotional debt to deal with. If you know anything about The 5 Love Languages, my wife’s love tank was dry.

She was open with me, and she explained everything I was doing for the last three years that I couldn’t see.

I decided to make a change.

I started working every job I could to pay off our financial debt, and I tried to patch the holes in our marriage, but I ended up being much better at the former than the latter.

2009
Living to Work

I worked at Domino’s Pizza by night, and a local body shop by day.

I was off on Saturday and Sunday, so I filled in those spots with a construction job.

I jumped at the opportunity to add a paper route to the mix after I got off work after midnight.

On top of that, I delivered phone books (remember those?) in the summer.

I earned more money than I had ever seen, and I spent more than I had ever spent.

We didn’t get out of debt that year.

2010
Cutting Back

I realized that I wasn’t including my family in my decisions or my endeavors.

I continued to change and develop.

After some wisdom from a friend, I cut back work, and we cut back our expenses to finally try to get out of debt.

We moved into a 700 sq ft mobile home, and sold our most expensive vehicle.

2011
Reality Check

After watching Eagle Eye (random, I know), I made a small comment about always having wanted to join the United States Air Force. And my wife was instantly on board.

I didn’t even realize it was a real option.

I just thought wives didn’t let their husbands join the military. I thought my chances were shot when I married at such a young age. Communication is the key here. If I had only said something earlier…

I went to the recruiter’s office, and he informed me that we had to pay off all our consumer debt, and either sell our house, or turn it into rental property. We chose the second option.

The recruiter also told me I had to lose 50 pounds.

50 pounds and $24k in debt. No big deal, right?

2012
Debt-Free and Healthy

I turned into a finance nerd and proceeded to read over 100 books on personal finance.

We got out of $24,000 in debt and turned our house into rental property.

We were officially debt-free.

I also dove into research on fitness and nutrition.

I found time to exercise, mostly through hiking and strength training, and lost the 50 pounds over the course of a year.

And then we made the decision to adopt a sibling group.

We had always wanted to adopt, and we felt like God put a situation right in front of us with a direct opportunity.

2013
Joining the Military

I went to Basic Training for the United State Air Force.

The day I graduated, my wife and I discussed starting the actual process of fostering to adopt the two children, and she gave me some big news.

She was pregnant! Of course, we decide to adopt and she gets pregnant.

We were happier than ever.

Once we were settled in at our first duty station in Oklahoma, we had our second child and started the foster-to-adopt process.

I decided that I should help other people do some of the things I had done with finances.

I started my first blog.

I decided that I loved helping other people, and I loved writing.

2014
Adoption

The two children were placed with us.

We now had two beautiful biological children and two amazing adopted children.

In all reality, we simply had four amazing children.

My first blog began to gain traction.

I had my first viral article on a big site I was writing for, and the article received over 70 million views.

By this time, I had picked up a few other writing gigs.

2015
Replacing My Wife's Income

I was now living with a structured routine, and producing a lot of content.

My writing and blogging income reached the point of replacing my wife’s income entirely.

She became a full-time stay-at-home mom, which was one of the greatest joys of my life.

We were a family of six, on one income, and we were building wealth like crazy.

2016
Moving to Italy

We got a new assignment. We were moving to Italy.

As if joining the military, having two children, and adopting two children wasn’t enough.

God had even bigger plans for us than we realized and they continued to unfold.

This would be the biggest move of our life, but after everything we had done and been through, we knew we could take on anything.

And we knew it would be an amazing adventure.

2017
We Live Differently

We are different. We don’t accept the status quo.

I accomplished a life-long goal of joining the military, but I joined late.

We are completely debt-free and building wealth, and only on one income.

We are able to comfortably support four children on one income, because of our lifestyle choices.

We have an amazing marriage and we love being around each other. Apparently, that’s unique.

I’m able to write, work full-time and have plenty of time to do amazing things with my family.

I’m also able to go to school full-time in the midst of all of this.

We’re learning Italian and interacting in the local community too.

We’re doing what we love. We’re living like no one else.

We choose to live differently.

What I've Learned

You don’t have to accept stereotypes.

You don’t have to be like everybody else.

My wife and I have gotten pretty good at this marriage thing. We love each other more now than we ever have, and we have an amazing marriage.

Our children are disciplined and obedient, and they know that they’re loved.

We are a family of seven now, and we are traveling the world. Yes, it’s possible and it’s a blast!

I want to show you that you don’t have to accept “normal.”

You don’t have to put your dreams and goals on hold just because you have a family.

I am able to do everything I do because of four things:

  • Habits
  • Goals
  • Discipline
  • God

It seems like hundreds of people have told me things like:

  • You can’t afford to do that
  • You’ll never be able to afford that
  • You don’t have time for that right now
  • You can’t travel much with a newborn, five kids, etc.
  • You have to put things on hold since you have such a large family
  • There are just some things you’ll never be able to do since you have a family

Ha! My family is behind me 100%. We teach our kids to live differently, and to truly achieve a happy, God-serving life.

We are flexible, and most of all, we are loving life.

If you’ve been told you can’t do something, and believed otherwise, you’re in good company.

That’s what this is all about.

Mission and Beliefs

My mission here, the core values of this website, and the Statement of Faith

Mission Statement

“To advance the Kingdom of God through helping others and serving others. To put others first, through Christ-like selflessness and humility. To never stray from the Word of God.”

Vision Statement

“To be a continually growing community of Christians and non-Christians alike, who respect each other and want to learn, grow and serve together. To bring people to salvation through loving servitude and teaching.”

Core Values

Rooted in God’s Word
The entirety of KalenBruce.com, both as a website and as a ministry, will be grounded in God’s Word. Every article will be in line with the Bible and what the Bible teaches.
Selflessness
Everything I write, publish and promote will be for the benefit of the reader. I will not post paid or sponsored articles, advertisements, tweets or statuses. I will only endorse content that is valuable to the reader.
Passion
All articles will be written with passion for Christ and furthering Christianity, with Jesus at the center of everything I do here. I will not stray from my passion of serving others by publishing high-quality content.
Transparency
Everything I publish will be real and transparent. No writer on this site will pretend to be something they are not. We will all be open and honest, sometimes to the point of vulnerability, but we believe readers will be respectful.
Non-Judgment
There will be no judgment of other human beings. From the articles published to the comments by the readers, I will not tolerate judgement. I will not be critical or harsh towards any people, other websites or businesses.

Statement of Faith

Since KalenBruce.com is not a church, this is a very minimal statement of faith that covers the core doctrine of this website. This is not intended to be an exhaustive list of our beliefs, but more of an overview of the key areas:

The Bible

The Bible is the inspired, infallible word of God.

2 Timothy 3:16; 2 Peter 1:20-21
“All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness,” 2 Timothy 3:16

 

“knowing this first of all, that no prophecy of Scripture comes from someone’s own interpretation. For no prophecy was ever produced by the will of man, but men spoke from God as they were carried along by the Holy Spirit.” 2 Peter 1:20-21

The Trinity

God eternally exists in perfection and love as the Father, Son and Holy Spirit.

Genesis 1:1, 26; Matthew 28:19; John 1:1-2, 4:24; Acts 5:3-4; Romans 1:20; Ephesians 4:5-6; 2 Corinthians 13:14
“In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth.” Genesis 1:1

 

“Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over the livestock and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” Genesis 1:26

“Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit,” Matthew 28:19

“In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God.” John 1:1-2

“God is spirit, and those who worship him must worship in spirit and truth.” John 4:24

“But Peter said, ‘Ananias, why has Satan filled your heart to lie to the Holy Spirit and to keep back for yourself part of the proceeds of the land? While it remained unsold, did it not remain your own? And after it was sold, was it not at your disposal? Why is it that you have contrived this deed in your heart? You have not lied to man but to God.” Acts 5:3-4

“For his invisible attributes, namely, his eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly perceived, ever since the creation of the world, in the things that have been made. So they are without excuse.” Romans 1:20

“one Lord, one faith, one baptism, one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all.” Ephesians 4:5-6

“The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ and the love of God and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all.” 2 Corinthians 13:14

Jesus Christ

Jesus is completely and fully God and completely and fully man. He was conceived by the Holy Spirit in the virgin Mary. He is the only person to live a sinless life. He was crucified and died, then rose to reconcile all people to God and defeat the devil. He will return at an unknown date to reign with his bride, the church. Everyone who rejects Jesus will suffer eternal destruction.

Matthew 1:18-25; Luke 1:26-38; Romans 9:5; Titus 2:13
“Now the birth of Jesus Christ took place in this way. When his mother Mary had been betrothed[b] to Joseph, before they came together she was found to be with child from the Holy Spirit. And her husband Joseph, being a just man and unwilling to put her to shame, resolved to divorce her quietly. But as he considered these things, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream, saying, ‘Joseph, son of David, do not fear to take Mary as your wife, for that which is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. She will bear a son, and you shall call his name Jesus, for he will save his people from their sins.’ All this took place to fulfill what the Lord had spoken by the prophet:

 

‘Behold, the virgin shall conceive and bear a son, and they shall call his name Immanuel’ (which means, God with us). When Joseph woke from sleep, he did as the angel of the Lord commanded him: he took his wife, but knew her not until she had given birth to a son. And he called his name Jesus.” Matthew 1:18-25

“In the sixth month the angel Gabriel was sent from God to a city of Galilee named Nazareth, to a virgin betrothed to a man whose name was Joseph, of the house of David. And the virgin’s name was Mary. And he came to her and said, ‘Greetings, O favored one, the Lord is with you!’ But she was greatly troubled at the saying, and tried to discern what sort of greeting this might be. And the angel said to her, ‘Do not be afraid, Mary, for you have found favor with God. 31 And behold, you will conceive in your womb and bear a son, and you shall call his name Jesus. He will be great and will be called the Son of the Most High. And the Lord God will give to him the throne of his father David, and he will reign over the house of Jacob forever, and of his kingdom there will be no end.’

And Mary said to the angel, ‘How will this be, since I am a virgin?’

And the angel answered her, ‘The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you; therefore the child to be born will be called holy—the Son of God. And behold, your relative Elizabeth in her old age has also conceived a son, and this is the sixth month with her who was called barren. For nothing will be impossible with God.’ And Mary said, ‘Behold, I am the servant of the Lord; let it be to me according to your word.’ And the angel departed from her.” Luke 1:26-38

“To them belong the patriarchs, and from their race, according to the flesh, is the Christ, who is God over all, blessed forever. Amen.” Romans 9:5

“waiting for our blessed hope, the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ,” Titus 2:13

The Holy Spirit

The Holy Spirit continually draws believers closer to God, transforms them into the image of Jesus Christ, empowers them for ministry, and distributes spiritual gifts to the Church. As believers, we are to always and continually seek to be filled with the Holy Spirit.

John 16:5-15; Romans 8:16, 23, 26-27; 1 Corinthians 12:1-31
“But now I am going to him who sent me, and none of you asks me, ‘Where are you going?’ But because I have said these things to you, sorrow has filled your heart. Nevertheless, I tell you the truth: it is to your advantage that I go away, for if I do not go away, the Helper will not come to you. But if I go, I will send him to you. And when he comes, he will convict the world concerning sin and righteousness and judgment: concerning sin, because they do not believe in me; concerning righteousness, because I go to the Father, and you will see me no longer; concerning judgment, because the ruler of this world is judged.

 

I still have many things to say to you, but you cannot bear them now. When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth, for he will not speak on his own authority, but whatever he hears he will speak, and he will declare to you the things that are to come. He will glorify me, for he will take what is mine and declare it to you. All that the Father has is mine; therefore I said that he will take what is mine and declare it to you.’” John 16:5-15

“The Spirit himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God,” Romans 8:16

“And not only the creation, but we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait eagerly for adoption as sons, the redemption of our bodies.” Romans 8:23

“Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. And he who searches hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God.” Romans 8:26-27

“Now concerning spiritual gifts, brothers, I do not want you to be uninformed. You know that when you were pagans you were led astray to mute idols, however you were led. Therefore I want you to understand that no one speaking in the Spirit of God ever says ‘Jesus is accursed!’ and no one can say ‘Jesus is Lord’ except in the Holy Spirit.

Now there are varieties of gifts, but the same Spirit; and there are varieties of service, but the same Lord; and there are varieties of activities, but it is the same God who empowers them all in everyone. To each is given the manifestation of the Spirit for the common good. For to one is given through the Spirit the utterance of wisdom, and to another the utterance of knowledge according to the same Spirit, to another faith by the same Spirit, to another gifts of healing by the one Spirit, to another the working of miracles, to another prophecy, to another the ability to distinguish between spirits, to another various kinds of tongues, to another the interpretation of tongues. All these are empowered by one and the same Spirit, who apportions to each one individually as he wills.

For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ. For in one Spirit we were all baptized into one body—Jews or Greeks, slaves or free—and all were made to drink of one Spirit.

For the body does not consist of one member but of many. If the foot should say, ‘Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,’ that would not make it any less a part of the body. And if the ear should say, ‘Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,’ that would not make it any less a part of the body. If the whole body were an eye, where would be the sense of hearing? If the whole body were an ear, where would be the sense of smell? But as it is, God arranged the members in the body, each one of them, as he chose. If all were a single member, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, yet one body.

The eye cannot say to the hand, ‘I have no need of you,’ nor again the head to the feet, ‘I have no need of you.’ On the contrary, the parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, and on those parts of the body that we think less honorable we bestow the greater honor, and our unpresentable parts are treated with greater modesty, which our more presentable parts do not require. But God has so composed the body, giving greater honor to the part that lacked it, that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another. If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together.

Now you are the body of Christ and individually members of it. And God has appointed in the church first apostles, second prophets, third teachers, then miracles, then gifts of healing, helping, administrating, and various kinds of tongues. Are all apostles? Are all prophets? Are all teachers? Do all work miracles? Do all possess gifts of healing? Do all speak with tongues? Do all interpret? But earnestly desire the higher gifts.

And I will show you a still more excellent way.” 1 Corinthians 12:1-31

The Fall of Humanity

All people are sinners and need to have a saving relationship with God. People are made children of God when they repent of their sin, place their trust in Jesus Christ, and commit their life to him

Genesis 1:26-27; 3:1, 24; Romans 3:25; 5:12-18; 1 John 1:18
“Then God said, ‘Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over the livestock and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth. So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.” Genesis 1:26-27

 

“Now the serpent was more crafty than any other beast of the field that the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God actually say, ‘You shall not eat of any tree in the garden’?” Genesis 3:1

“He drove out the man, and at the east of the garden of Eden he placed the cherubim and a flaming sword that turned every way to guard the way to the tree of life.” Genesis 3:24

“whom God put forward as a propitiation by his blood, to be received by faith. This was to show God’s righteousness, because in his divine forbearance he had passed over former sins.” Romans 3:25

“Therefore, just as sin came into the world through one man, and death through sin, and so death spread to all men because all sinned— for sin indeed was in the world before the law was given, but sin is not counted where there is no law. Yet death reigned from Adam to Moses, even over those whose sinning was not like the transgression of Adam, who was a type of the one who was to come.

But the free gift is not like the trespass. For if many died through one man’s trespass, much more have the grace of God and the free gift by the grace of that one man Jesus Christ abounded for many. And the free gift is not like the result of that one man’s sin. For the judgment following one trespass brought condemnation, but the free gift following many trespasses brought justification. For if, because of one man’s trespass, death reigned through that one man, much more will those who receive the abundance of grace and the free gift of righteousness reign in life through the one man Jesus Christ.

Therefore, as one trespass led to condemnation for all men, so one act of righteousness leads to justification and life for all men.” Romans 5:12-18

“If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.” 1 John 1:18

All Bible Scripture references are taken from the ESV ® Bible (The Holy Bible, English Standard Version ®) copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers.

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